Here’s a helpful little suggestion…
When you’re discussing something with someone and trying to reach a consensus, after the person makes their suggestions respond with, “I like that and…“
Many times, our natural response is to skip over areas of agreement and jump on what we don’t like, with “But..“, which negates their perspective.
Instead, compliment the other person PLUS use the bridge-building word “and” rather than the distance-creating word “but.”
“I like that, and…” are magic words that will make your communications much smoother and they’ve built more bridges than the Army Corps of Engineers!
Love this, AND in my family we also use “and” as a friendly cue to turn a negative complaining thought to the positive. For example….
Me…i have to drive my mom today and listen to her whining..
Me..AND how lucky I am to still have my mom and she is well enough to still live at home.